In this film Sue Bourne turned her beady eye on that fascinating phenomenon of contemporary society – Internet Dating. There are 15 million single people in the UK and 7 million of them have tried their hand at internet dating. With these staggering statistics Bourne set out to find out what this was doing to us. To our relationships. To the way we treated each other. And to our perception of Love, Romance and Marriage. Bourne assembled a chorus of voices to explore the subject and show how internet dating actually works. All ages, all walks of life are questioned. And the assembled chorus talk incredibly candidly, openly and amusingly about their different experiences of this new world. It makes for fascinating viewing and the audience are left to decide for themselves what they think. And whether or not they want to join those other seven million people on the internet looking for a partner.
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Back in my mid-30's I decided I was done with everything related to love and romance. I'm almost 50 now and totally free of it all. At my age, I'm pretty much resigned to being a lifelong bachelor. My friends have tried online dating and ended up worse off than they were before they did it. To the women every guy is a loser and to the guys, they're not good enough for any of them. Even though I've never tried it, I've reached the conclusion online dating will do nothing for you that you can't do in the real world. In fact, it's a sad reflection and even an undesirable magnification of it. So, my main focus is to live the best life I can no matter if I'm single or not. I chalk it up to a very simple idea: for whatever reason(s), there were some things in life I got right, and others I didn't. I dwell not on anything past that.
hahahaha ouch am also an addictive of online chatting a lot of experiences i have met with people ,and the bottom line hmmmmmmmmmmmmm till now i havent find a guy for me ,accepted because am not fitted for i am 60 years old now!!!! hahahahahah still i did chatting only
i LOVED online dating and did it for years, my very first bf i met in the army but he was a wuss but all my other bfs i met online and they were great fun in the sack but not hubby material, i prob wont meet my future hubby online, i will prob go back to old fashioned meeting guys down the pub,etc,
*Sorry for being brutally honest here but this documentary shows the reality of online dating: a bunch of ugly, weird and desperate losers who are willing to waste time and money online believing that they will find "the one" in those lame websites one day. It's almost pitiful and quite embarrassing to watch!*
Why go there?? Having to go through all of the crap of being judged by the family and friends!! I've been there done that!! Having to put up with all the bull crap and always having to put your hands in your pocket to pay for everything!! Being the on call taxi driver!! Much happier now !! NO crap to put up with from anyone!!😁👍👍
I'm 31 too, and the dating app scene was all new to me up until I first tried it out last year. My experience with dating websites was during my early 20s. You just made me realize every serious relationship I have had (lasting more than a year), started online. How shocking. Although in each of those relationships, we always invented a more interesting story about how we met, to tell others when they asked us. Can't say I've ever used papers though!
12 years isn't so outrageous. An age gap of up to 10 years isn't such a big deal when you get to our age. On that note, I did notice my success using online dating increase substantially the older I got. In my early 20s, it was a lot of work. But the moment I hit 30, I started getting a lot of attention from women of all ages, from 18 to mid-40s. I've even had girls on tinder confess to me that they were lying about their age, and were in fact 17, and in one case 16 (18 is the age limit to sign up). Bit too young for me, obviously!
Good luck with your marriage. But at least you know, if things go pear shaped (God forbid), it's a lot easier these days for you to find someone else. The main problem is no longer finding a good match, it's making a final decision about which of your many prospects you like enough to forget about all the others.
videochemist Wow and thanks for taking time to reply that long comment.
I have heard of tinder, badoo and so on.
but never been on those, It certainly has evolved from what it was in my time I am 31.
In my early days I even used the local papers but most men were at least 12 years older than me and that was before I bought my first laptop.
I am not surprised by anything you said because it’s so much lighter, easier to navigate and convenient to use an app on your smartphone phone.
I did not find my husband on the internet, I found him in one my jobs with a client I work for and no problems there.
Chances of people getting hitched from those things are very thin but I have seen it happening and lasting to this day.
I guess if it’s meant to be then maybe it will be!
Smart phone apps, such as tinder, dominate. Using a web browser and logging into an online dating website is a thing of the past. Because you're on your phone, it's much more location based (you can search for people within a customizable radius from your current location). But most importantly, there are WAY more people using dating/hook-up apps now compared to the number of people using dating websites, back when those were still relevant. If I were to download tinder right now, by the end of the day I could have dozens of matches and active chats going, which isn't bad for a guy (and that's without even writing a bio, or just creating a silly one liner bio - most people make their choice to start talking based entirely on your first picture, without reading your bio). Think of it this way; these days most people have their smart phone on them at all times, but how many people do you remember carrying around a laptop 10 years ago and logging into a dating website while they're waiting for a bus or on their lunch break?
I loved how the guy put it "internet dating is a very good, convenient, exciting way of NOT having a relationship". So true, this is why I gave up on it. It just wore me down and made me bitter from all the dickheads and liars. I feel so much better without using any dating apps and not coming across such people anymore. I rather be single like he said if I will never run into someone meaningful in my life naturally by chance somewhere.
I tried online dating one time in my life and now I won't even consider a relationship, or even the possibility of opening myself up for this at all ever again.
I was in college and about to buy land and build a home and my own business after Decades of struggle. I was on the verge of accomplishing this, and then I made the mistake of getting online on a dating site. The next thing I know I'm dealing with a methamphetamine addict who I helped through her addiction, and tried to help with a whole host of problems but could not. In the process I lost everything, because all of my focus ended up on her and the mountain of problems she came with. Since then she has now returned back to the life that she claimed she didn't want, and I'm stuck in the bottom end of a trailer park, piecing together an old truck just trying to get by. In order for me to get back on my path with just the bare essentials I must sacrifice everything I have left. Absolutely everything. Now in the face of the technology that is coming and the parameters they're going to put before us, I see that it was all a deception meant to distract me and cause me to stumble, and that's exactly what it did. It will be by God's grace alone that I achieve my endeavor.
I will never consider this a possibility in my life ever again. I have been in relationships where the person didn't even start to show their true colors for at least 3 years, and it was more than just one who did this. The longest relationship I ever had was 10 years almost to the day, and towards the end of that 10 years I learned that all of it was just a big deception and I was being used.
I've heard many people say, "give it time and you will heal, and you will find love again", but I'm going to ensure that I'm never fooled ever again. There's more to this than anything to do with me now. See, something is coming that I can't be a part of through your technology. So I'm uprooting my life and I'm selling everything I have, and I'm going deep into the wilderness. I will go back to my roots and the ways I was taught as a child. Our ancestors ways. There is no woman who is going to walk away from her family and grandchildren and leave society and all of its carnal amenities behind. Doesn't matter what they say, because you know them by their fruit. So I'm not going to find somebody who is willing to live solely off of the land & by the elements, with a very meager and simple life. I won't even encounter a person like this once I'm established. My home goes up for sale the first of the year, and once I have that land in my possession I will never look back. So no, a time will not come where I will find love once again.
See the world has this view of love that I see as carnality and lust. They think love is a Feeling, when in actuality "love is an action". It has nothing to do with how you feel
Tony Ray Reading your comment was eerie much along the lines of my experience. I had good opportunities, and them met a guy who had nothing and apart from the fact I wanted to help him there was a spark. In the end I lost everything I had pulled together for the second time.
I am saving up and looking to off grid and near as I can. I can't stand the way peoples attitudes are changing and much prefer the company of animals. Nothing like earning that trust and loyalty. It tooth me about a year or two to hear from my self esteem and I hope you will too and find great peace in the beauty of nature.
All the best for the feature. :)
P.s, there are some food Permaculture and off grid engineer channels on here, for building a home.
Like I said not being prideful I am just old school myself and not very tech savy. I like that when you ask how did you meet your partner (these days it's a lot of online) nothing wrong with that :-) just not my style.
Paul Ainsworth I understand what your trying to say but I’m saying it’s sad because I honestly don’t think you need the internet to find a significant other and sure it could be a useful tool but it just defeats the purpose of actually meeting someone rather just then scrolling through copious amounts of suitable partners
hoosierhiver I don’t think you need the internet to meet people and it’s not that hard to meet people and if your planing on saying “ what if the person doesn’t have social skills” I think if someone can keep a conversation over text then it shouldn’t be any different in person
Why is it sad? For those of us born in the 50s and well past the night clubbing stage, it can be a useful tool, if used wisely and with the basic premice that all the people are liars. At least you get a good chance to check them out, even more so then a meeting in a bar or whatever you want to call the "traditional" form of dating?! Equally, so many of us are supposed to live alone and suffer from loneliness, well, yep, here I am, but where is everyone else? If you use common sense then it's as good a way as any, I now understand why after a few quick messages many stop writing, mainly because I ask pertinent questions and catch them out. Never would I meet anyone without firstly "vetting" them, speaking on the phone and video messages.
I did online dating without a profile picture, so I wrote a funny text instead. Got 656 answers. Cut it down to ten, then three. Then two. Just mailed, no meetings. These two last men had almost the same nicknames. Let’s call them «Pooh» and «Puuh». I got a really good feeling about Puuh, we connected so extremly well, it was like finding my soulmate, so I was thinking of ditching Pooh. So I mailed Puuh and asked him to meet me at Paris cafe the next day at seven for our first date. I got a weird reply: «Eeh....Ok, I actually just told you I was working tomorrow, but I’ll meet you». I then realized I had mailed Pooh, not Puuh!! I was too embarresed to tell him that invitation was meant for an other guy so I showed up the next day to meet him. I sat there anxiously waiting, feeling so bad, because I wasn’t really so into him. He showed up, with a huge bouquet of flowers and behind the flowers was the most handsome man in the world. The best thing though, was his personality. It was love at first sight. Three weeks later I got a huge water leak in my house and had to move to his place. And never left. We are married, have been together for almost 18 years now, and have a beautiful daughter together. The best mistake in my life. ❤️
Carly Reynolds There are lots of great men on dating sites for many reasons. I used online dating sites because of very limited exposure to eligible women in my daily life. I never had much luck with the bar scene. It's a great tool to meet people that you would have never otherwise crossed paths with in real life. Just because a man is on an online dating site doesn't necessarily mean that he is undesirable in real life.
James Smith advice for women: DON’T DATE MEN WHO AREN’T OKAY WITH YOUR CHILD. They obviously are far from perfect if they are on a dating website anyway, and you can’t just bring random men or anyone into your life as a Mother.
Tried it,... gave up. Not sure what women wanted but it wasn't me. Maybe because I believe in equality of the sexes, and not special privilege and treatment. Too many women who punch a lot higher than they should. But you say,..what about you. Well,..52. look 40, great physical shape, financially secure and a cross between Steve McQueen and Clint Eastwood. Maybe women have forgotten what a real man is these days, or are too afraid of the ones they can't manipulate. Not sure. Found a good one now. Not an idiot,..good looking and smart. Met her at a garage sale fighting over the same item. I let her have it and she paid for the coffee. Equality.
@Kent I beg to differ.I have met a lot of filthy men online and I gave up cause it felt like I was trying to catch a good fish in a cesspool hahaha. I applaud women and men that keep going back for more online dating. They have a lot of patience.
paul lespage Equality, or should I say lack thereof is a big problem in dating these days. The online dating marketplace is overwhelmingly tilted in women's favor. Every online dating site is a total sausage fest. Women have so many more options to choose from than men do, hence why you see so many women going for men that are out of their league. A lot of women also use online dating sites solely for receiving validation from men. Many of them have zero interest in actually finding someone online.
I liked this doc. Very transparent. It seems like some people devolve into weird versions of human beings just by using online dating apps. It’s an odd subculture to be a part of so if after 3-6 months of trying it goes nowhere, quit it. Preserve your humanity and sense of self.
Is this internet shopping for a partner ? Experts say you need to be attractive or young ,I am none ha ha ,third date and get the ride ,that what she said ! Well easy come easy go (written by middle aged Andy )
Ok...I’m 6:52 into this video and had to pause it. This man is talking about the “lunatics” on the site that he’s also on and judging their process in finding a partner, while calling people names. He’s so blissfully unaware of why HE may never find anyone himself
Who is he judging? He's describing a type of person that exists, in droves I might add, that struggles to make relationships work because of unrealistic, one-sided expectations. Let's not pretend that those sorts of people do not exist because we all know at least one...
EXCELLENT documentary!!!! I have had SO MANY of these same experiences from internet dating 🤦🏽♀️ And I have learned so much too.....its nice to see we are all the same on the inside, regardless as to where you live in the world 💘
Your cell is a computer you imbecile. You serious never seen a laptop before? Did you grow up under a rock? A laptop is a computer idiot too. You seriously can't be that stupid. But then again.... You could be that dumb. LMFAO! I honestly hope you was joking around. LoL 😂
You are taking it a bit personally 😕 I'm talking about the higher percent. I just think a childhood without the pressure of the internet was a simpler time is all.
Without people interacting with each other like this.... With such hostility. 👌
The more time goes on less kids are playing in the streets but more on electronic devices. (Again talking higher percentages). Blame the parents, blame the generation, the change in society or advance in technology but it's FACTS.
But where in the world you live is an important factor too.
Good day ☺
Maybe you ladies should avoid drinking, if you can't trust yourselves to behave, when a gentleman buys you a few sherberts............... (Still think you are rabid feminists with a screw loose though)
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